How to be a good wife.

HOW TO BE A GOOD WIFE

Home Economics High School Text Book, 1954

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal, on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so that you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the home just before your husband arrives, gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift, too.

Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad he is home.

Some don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if he is late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

Listen to him. You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

Make the evening his. Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.

The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
Source: http://iws.ccccd.edu/grooms/goodwife.htm

I think a good many people have read this *fake* article and had a good laugh. As I was reading through it this morning, I had to wonder what was so wrong with it though? Is it really that laughable?

I tend to have a beef with the belief that the 1950s were a horrible time for wives. I am sure that there are exceptions to this, but on the whole, I just don't buy that all women from that period were mindless, bitter, unhappy women who were forced to be slaves to their husbands.

I think there is a prevalence of feminists who try to convince people of what a bad deal women got who were 'just housewives'. I don't buy it. I am a happy, fulfilled individual. I have at least half a brain (har har). I chose at age 21 to become a stay at home wife. With no kids even! Gasp! I just have always felt that being at home was the place that made me the happiest. Is that so wrong?

5 comments:

Christin&Co. said...

I love this post. I happen to agree with you. I think the feminine movement is self-indulgent. I personally take a Christ centered view that we are to be servant hearted. When serving others you find peace and joy (contentment).

Katy said...

I totally agree with you...however..with three little ones...getting hands and faces washed and making them look perfecto while trying to finish dinner and make everythign clean before hubby gets home can be hard...LOL. But I do agree....we should strive to make things nice for our husband...because we love him so much!!! :)

suZqZ said...

I am a hard-core feminist and I must comment on this post.

I think that the feminist movement has been great because it has given us choices and opportunities to live a life that is suited to our tastes and beliefs. And I've fully taken advantage of that.

Having said that, I have to also say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with what you've posted. I actually adhere to those standards pretty closely. And when I return to work after my maternity leave my partner(we remain unmarried my choice) will become a househusband for 12 weeks of his own leave and he'll adhere those standards.

Anyway, my point is: Home is an incredibly important place and anything you can do to make it a more inviting and comfortable place for your family will only make things better. Usually this means having someone at home and someone who works outside the home. There's nothing wrong with being a housewife(in fact it's highly likely that I'll be one when my guy goes back to work!)

Sorry for the wordy comment! I have tons to say about all this because I have an English degree and I spent last semester researching and writing about whether or not Mommy Lit is a feminist literature.

Ali said...

I appreciate your very thoughtful comment suzqz :) Thank you for your input.

I do believe that there are both positives and negatives that have come from the feminist movement. (And that phrase, the feminist movement, how can I possibly define what IT is, anyways? It is so huge and spans so many years. Anyways.)

Amanda said...

Thank you so much! Everytime I read this "article" I think, "What's so bad about that?" Glad to know I'm not alone!